Single parenthood is not a good thing. This is not to criticize the many single dads and moms who are that way because of natural circumstances, or the unforeseen that is through no fault of their own. Rather, it is that children need a mother and a father in the home because the two opposites form a complete whole. Children who do not have this are known to suffer from any number of problems such as feeling resentment or insecurity, emotional issues, poor grade, inclinations towards criminal behavior, poor decision making, poor reasoning skills, higher overall rates of sickness, divorce, poverty, and death, and just are unhappier.
This is the great crime of divorce today, where so many children are left to single-parent households because mom (while fathers also will file for divorce, about 80% of divorces are initiated by women, and so constitute the supermajority of those breaking up families) wants to separate from dad while also collecting money from him by means of alimony and child support payments, children are those who suffer because if mom is not leaving them alone to go “find herself” (at the local bar, while intoxicated on the nightclub floor, or in a cheap motel room with that “biker guy” she just met), the poisonous atmosphere engendered by a couple divorcing often puts children against their parents, creates chaos, leads to potentially abusive situations, and all the while is often caused by selfishness and a refusal of the adults to grow up.
This is one of the reasons why there are so many pieces of “advice” for me that all essentially say that “single moms are good for “fun” but not marriage.” In terms for the common man, and without using too much explicit language, it means they are enjoyable to fornicate with, but are not wife material because a single mom is living proof of a failed family unit, and there is a reason that family failed, and because most of the times it is women who file for divorce or it is they who will put themselves in a situation where they become a single mom (such as by way of sleeping with lots of men with little care for relationships with them, or just because they are not too bright and choose instead to think with their loins as opposed to their minds), and given the historically unprecedented legal permissions extended to them, it is the women who are largely to blame for the rash of single parenthood.
According to a recent poll from the Pew Research Group, the US has received the unflattering distinction of being the nation with the highest rates of single parenthood, with nearly one-quarter of children living in such a situation.
or decades, the share of U.S. children living with a single parent has been rising, accompanied by a decline in marriage rates and a rise in births outside of marriage. A new Pew Research Center study of 130 countries and territories shows that the U.S. has the world’s highest rate of children living in single-parent households.
Almost a quarter of U.S. children under the age of 18 live with one parent and no other adults (23%), more than three times the share of children around the world who do so (7%). The study, which analyzed how people’s living arrangements differ by religion, also found that U.S. children from Christian and religiously unaffiliated families are about equally likely to live in this type of arrangement.
In comparison, 3% of children in China, 4% of children in Nigeria and 5% of children in India live in single-parent households. In neighboring Canada, the share is 15%. (source)
What makes the US case also special is that these are percentages. The next highest nations are the UK (21%), Sao Tome (19%), Russia (18%), France (16%), and Kenya (16%). However, consider that if we add up the populations of these nations (in the millions: UK- 66.4, Sao Tome .201, Russia 142, France 67, Kenya 47.5), we get 323.1 million, or just about the size of the population of the US.
This should horrify anybody, because it means that the US has both the highest percentage of children with single parents as compared to the rest of the world, but given our large population, it means that we have the highest physical amount as a total, with presumably, given these proportions, as many children living with single parents in the USA alone as in the next five nations right after her.
It is not an understatement to say that the land is truly the place of single parenthood and is not one where marriages go to flourish, but where they go to die in the industry of divorce.
There is a lot of talk today about how younger and even middle-aged men are not getting married. It is often times the men who are blamed for this, saying that they would rather do the three “P”s of “pizza, porn, and playing video games” instead of being “real men” by “growing up” and “taking action”. It is the women who are presented as the ones who are “just looking for a good man” and the ones veritably “begging” for a man to ask them out.
If one looks at these statistics for divorce, marriage, and single parenthood, and knowing that based on this data, there is a bare minimum of a 25% chance that any man today grew up in a single parent household (the numbers are actually much higher, since one needs to consider multiple marriages as well as remarriage). This means that a real change is present they saw a lot of the dysfunction, chaos, and horror of divorce in their personal lives, and possibly were abused themselves by a parent or a step-parent.
Put yourself in their shoes. If you saw mom and dad get divorced, and you had some bad experiences, why do you want to get married and risk having to go through the same yourself? Likewise, if you were going to get married, would you not want to take time and be very careful about what woman you wanted to date? Or perhaps you wanted to simply live as you wanted to, and consider marriage for a future time, knowing that a man’s value appreciates with age like while while a woman, generally speaking, unless she is married, tends to age like a jug of milk?
I am not saying this to denounce marriage, or to say that men are innocent. What I am saying is that the marriage and family crisis has causes. Women for a long time wanted to be treated like men and earn income like a man as well as have social positions like men, but with the social protections historically granted to women but not to men. The result has been a disaster, because women have been engineered into the society in such a way that men are being pushed out from it in a perverted attempt to thwart human biology. This is why there are so many women at 35, 40, or older who are on dating apps looking for “Mr. Right”, because they passed their lives trying to get a career and now, having usually pushed men to the side, are looking to have a family but nobody wants them because they are old, used up, and there is a fear from men that if they do marry and happen to impregnated one of these women, these same women will divorce them because they have the same attitudes that cause the epidemic of single motherhood in the first place.
The future for single motherhood will likely continue to rise as the society becomes more pagan. However, there is also a possibility of a decline in this as those who do strive to value the institution of marriage tend to have more children, while those who do not care- I speak mostly of women in this case -will likely not have children and eventually die out. As an additional point, I have noted there is a genuine concern of a suicide epidemic among these women-both single moms as well as “career women” who want to start families four decades on average into life -because they will eventually find themselves alone and with nobody to really care for them, and with no faith, no hope, no meaning, and just anger, they may choose to self-destruct in the worst way possible.
The wonder of a good wife and the wickedness of a bad wife have been written about in the Bible. In the Book of Sirach, it advises that “happy [is] the husband of a good wife; the number of his days will be doubled. A loyal wife brings joy to her husband, and he will finish his years in peace. A good wife is a generous gift bestowed upon him who fears the Lord. (Sirach 26:1-3)”, but “a godless wife will be given to the lawless man as his portion…a shameless woman wears out reproach… A headstrong wife is regarded as a bitch…a loud-mouthed and garrulous wife will be regarded as a trumpet sounding the charge, and every person who lives like this will spend his life in the anarchy of war. (Sirach 26:24-27)”.
So, taking the advice of the Bible, knowing the statistics and words above,
My child, keep intact the bloom of your youth, and do not give your strength to strangers. Seek out a fertile field from all the land, and sow it with your own seed, confident in your fine stock. So shall your offspring prosper, and grow great, confident in their good descent. (Sirach 26:19-21)
Jesus Christ is King
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