Scorned By Leftists For Trying To Live A Peaceful Life, Ben From Love Is Blind Is All Of Us
When Ben Mezzenga approached the altar, he was ready to marry Sara Carton — and overlook their deep political differences. But she had other things in mind.
“I asked him about, like, Black Lives Matter. … he was like, ‘I guess I’ve never really thought too much about it,’” Carton said after refusing Mezzenga’s marriage on the show Love Is Blind. “I asked him too, like, what his church’s views are [regarding the LGBT movement]. And he said he didn’t know.”
Mezzenga and Carton met in the “pods,” where contestants date from separate rooms to avoid considering their appearances and test the show’s thesis that “love is blind.” From the moment they began dating, Carton began pushing Mezzenga on cultural issues like gender ideology and BLM. He took the most agreeable and compromising approach a Christian could take — distancing himself from politics, calling Christianity “faith, not religion,” and emphasizing the commandment to love others.
A show can only depict so much about one’s character. After all, allegations (of questionable credibility) surfaced that Mezzenga treated women “terribly,” and Carton seemed like a well-intentioned — yet confused and ideologically captured — person.
But by simply watching the dynamic between the two, one can better understand the nation’s political divide. Mezzenga just wanted a peaceful life together, even if they disagreed — much like the average American. But no matter how much he gave in, he could never reach the standards of Carton’s far-left ideology. For this, he was quickly smeared by internet leftists as a “right wing homophobe antivaxxer.”
Soon after they met in the pods, Mezzenga opened up about his faith.
“I grew up in a very strong Christian household. There’s a lot of things that I believe about the Bible, and I believe about the Christian faith, but it’s all hard to obviously know for certain,” he said. “I believe that there’s the one true God that loves us, and that’s pretty much it.”
Carton replied she has a “gay” sister, so she struggles with biblical teaching on sexuality. “I find it really difficult to go to a church, and like, practice, when it’s like, love thy neighbor, but then it’s also like, LGBT is going to go to hell.”
Mezzenga responded that he “hate[s] the word religion” — “I like using the word faith.” Carton asked if he would be comfortable around her lesbian sister, and if he would attend “pride weekend” — he agreed to both. He further compromised, saying, “This is love, it shouldn’t be something that people call out as a sin.”
Carton said she would be open to finding a church together, but only if it “accepts all people.” Again, Mezzenga took the most “winsome” possible approach, even if it meant compromising his principles. “I’m not going to try to convert you; I want you to feel comfortable that you’re not being pressured,” he said.
Later, Carton pushed politics again — asking Mezzenga’s stance on the radical Black Lives Matter movement. She said she “really didn’t get interested until Trump took office and George Floyd.” Mezzenga said he is “ignorant toward that stuff” and didn’t vote in the last election. Carton apparently disliked the answer.
“That is so annoying,” Carton said. “What are your thoughts on Black Lives Matter?”
Mezzenga replied he is “not one way or another” — “I just kind of keep out of it.” Similar to many Americans, as only 31 percent say “they understand the goals of the Black Lives Matter movement extremely or very well,” according to a 2023 Pew Research poll.
He asked if Carton could marry someone who is not “right next to you, fully believing everything that you do.” She said she needs her spouse to “be on the same page” about what she called “equality,” apparently referencing the LGBT movement.
The couple got engaged and seemed to overlook their disagreements much of the time. Carton even attended a Christian church service with Mezzenga, though she wore an apparent look of discomfort the whole time. But on their last date before the wedding, Carton found an online sermon from Mezzenga’s church on biblical sexuality.
“They were talking about, as a parent, what would you do if your child came up to you and they were 12, 13, saying ‘I feel like I’m a boy, but in a girl’s body,’” Carton said. “What he said was, ‘God made us who we are, and desires are different than actions.’ He made the example of, love doesn’t equal affirmation.”
Carton said she “didn’t agree” with these basic Christian views on sexuality, and Mezzenga compromised yet again. “I don’t agree with that either,” he said.
But despite these repeated concessions, and after Carton said she had “clarity” from Mezzenga, she still refused him at the altar.
“I’ve always wanted a partner to be on the same wavelength, and so today I can’t,” Carton said during the wedding.
Those on the far left consistently tell Americans they must concede everything to avoid becoming social heretics. They dictate that “silence is violence,” that not being racist is “not enough,” and that Christians cannot simply love homosexual or trans-identifying people — they must “affirm” their actions.
So the tragic story of Ben Mezzenga and Sara Carton is a valuable lesson. Most Americans just want a peaceful life with others, even if they don’t agree on everything. But those on the left take no quarter, and they will never be satisfied with anything but a full-throated endorsement of their ideology.
Logan Washburn is a staff writer covering election integrity. He is a spring 2025 fellow of The College Fix. He graduated from Hillsdale College, served as Christopher Rufo’s editorial assistant, and has bylines in The Wall Street Journal, The Tennessean, and The Daily Caller. Logan is from Central Oregon but now lives in rural Michigan.
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